posted by
orichalcum at 06:36pm on 18/05/2007 under health fashion
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I was a Good Girl today, and terribly yuppie. I joined a non-university gym for the first time, and arranged to sign up for baby water orientation classes there. I went to Gymboree and found out what their schedule and gym was like. I'm not sure we're going to join, because it's way expensive for once a week, but we'll certainly check out the free class. And then I went to Trader Joe's, where I got lots of stuff for a picnic by the lake tomorrow and encountered the following surreal customers in line ahead of me:
Group #1: 3 college-aged guys, one wearing a Sigma Chi sweatshirt, who spent $364 on Three-Buck-Chuck and 3 bottles of cheap champagne. They got 6 cases. That was all they bought. The first guy had three credit cards declined in a row, and finally his friend had to pay. As the checkout lady said to me later, "When I was in college, we got kegs."
Person #2: A guy in his 30s, nicely dressed, ahead of me in line, whose total purchase was one bouquet of a dozen roses and mixed flowers and 12 cardboard boxes of Trader Joe's Mac 'N Cheese.
What's his story, I wonder?
ladybird97 suggested he might have a pregnant wife.
I decided to splurge and try out two of their new products - guava paste rolls, which Mac might like, and the Sweet Sixteen collection of eight pairs of mini-pastries: key lime tarts, raspberry white chocolate tarts, chocolate coconut bars, blueberry linzer bars, strawberry rhubarb bars, flourless chocolate cake with raspberry frosting, carrot cake, and lemon bars. We'll see what the picnic thinks of them - and they were remarkably cheap, too - $7.00 for all of them.
Now we come to the question for which I actually need advice. After doing all of this productive stuff, I went to the mall, in search of a dress. I've got three weddings to go to in the next six months, and two dresses that could sort-of work and one more casual top-and-skirt. So I'm not in a dire situation. However, in late October, A's law firm has its annual gala again, the one which I was woefully underdressed for last year since everyone was wearing Oscar-knockoff 4-5 digit gowns. I am determined that I will not be underdressed this year, esp. since A. might possibly be up for an award. A's Weberian Congregationalist soul is horrified at the thought of spending that much money on a dress, so we have compromised on it merely being a very nice dress, rather than a month's rent kind of dress. Sensibly, he also feels that I should wear it to at least one of the weddings, which is why I'm really hoping that the two weddings whose dress codes I don't know are reasonably formal so I won't be out of place. I should clarify that I'm also slightly appalled by the idea of spending more on this gown than on our rent or my wedding dress, but I'd really like to have a gown that actually fit me and where I elicited some "Damns!" from friends, without upstaging anyone. (Thankfully, none of the weddings have any ex-issues, so I don't need to go extra-modest or anything.)
The mall, as it turns out, does not seem to be the kind of place to buy a really nice dress, particularly given my current figure (hopefully to be modified by the gym, see above), in which I tend to either look shapeless or like Betty Boop. So, oh so knowledgable friends, where _does_ one go to buy Oscar-knockoffs for non-model-thin women?
Group #1: 3 college-aged guys, one wearing a Sigma Chi sweatshirt, who spent $364 on Three-Buck-Chuck and 3 bottles of cheap champagne. They got 6 cases. That was all they bought. The first guy had three credit cards declined in a row, and finally his friend had to pay. As the checkout lady said to me later, "When I was in college, we got kegs."
Person #2: A guy in his 30s, nicely dressed, ahead of me in line, whose total purchase was one bouquet of a dozen roses and mixed flowers and 12 cardboard boxes of Trader Joe's Mac 'N Cheese.
What's his story, I wonder?
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I decided to splurge and try out two of their new products - guava paste rolls, which Mac might like, and the Sweet Sixteen collection of eight pairs of mini-pastries: key lime tarts, raspberry white chocolate tarts, chocolate coconut bars, blueberry linzer bars, strawberry rhubarb bars, flourless chocolate cake with raspberry frosting, carrot cake, and lemon bars. We'll see what the picnic thinks of them - and they were remarkably cheap, too - $7.00 for all of them.
Now we come to the question for which I actually need advice. After doing all of this productive stuff, I went to the mall, in search of a dress. I've got three weddings to go to in the next six months, and two dresses that could sort-of work and one more casual top-and-skirt. So I'm not in a dire situation. However, in late October, A's law firm has its annual gala again, the one which I was woefully underdressed for last year since everyone was wearing Oscar-knockoff 4-5 digit gowns. I am determined that I will not be underdressed this year, esp. since A. might possibly be up for an award. A's Weberian Congregationalist soul is horrified at the thought of spending that much money on a dress, so we have compromised on it merely being a very nice dress, rather than a month's rent kind of dress. Sensibly, he also feels that I should wear it to at least one of the weddings, which is why I'm really hoping that the two weddings whose dress codes I don't know are reasonably formal so I won't be out of place. I should clarify that I'm also slightly appalled by the idea of spending more on this gown than on our rent or my wedding dress, but I'd really like to have a gown that actually fit me and where I elicited some "Damns!" from friends, without upstaging anyone. (Thankfully, none of the weddings have any ex-issues, so I don't need to go extra-modest or anything.)
The mall, as it turns out, does not seem to be the kind of place to buy a really nice dress, particularly given my current figure (hopefully to be modified by the gym, see above), in which I tend to either look shapeless or like Betty Boop. So, oh so knowledgable friends, where _does_ one go to buy Oscar-knockoffs for non-model-thin women?
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I suggest finding your nearest outlet mall, too.
Is Jessica McClintock formal enough? Those come in lots of sizes, but may be too bridesmaidy. Not rock bottom prices but still reasonable.
Hmm...maybe try some upscale department store websites first to get an idea of sizes and styles, then visit the promising ones? Finally, isn't Neimann Marcus's annul sale coming up soon? That would be ideal.
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I may or may not need a new dress for this summer's weddings as well.
I wish I had better advice for Orichalcum. I know where I might suggest here, but no idea for Chicago.
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Other random question - I noticed last year that most of the other women were also not wearing jewelry. Is jewelry just out with formal dresses?
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I also have to figure out my feelings about wearing the necklace traditionally given to my family's eldest daughter on her 40th birthday, which I have because, well, there's no one else to wear it, but which I've only worn once, for my wedding.
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Heirlooms can be hard that way. I think there'll be a time when it feels right to wear it.
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Jewelry is absolutely not out. But of course it depends on the dress. Simple, elegant dress => fancier jewelry. Froofy dress with lots of stuff going on => less jewelry.
I like Macy's for dressy things. I find that my figure takes well to two-piece formal dresses, e.g. sequined top or jacket with a one-tone skirt. You may be able to wear a skirt you already have, if you find a top fancy enough. That may cut down on cost. Neiman's is also a good idea, and Loehmann's is a great idea (although I have trouble finding really good things in my size there. Your size may do better or your Loehmann's may vary).
You can have something made. If you find some really amazing fabrics at a fabric shop and a good seamstress, you can get a really great dress that fits you perfectly. It may be a more expensive than sales or Loehmann's, but it probably won't be 4 figures. It takes effort, but then you can say you had it designed specially for you. :)
anyway, good luck. Look forward to hearing more about it.
one bouquet of a dozen roses and mixed flowers and 12 cardboard boxes of Trader Joe's Mac 'N Cheese
lurve, true lurve.
Or maybe the guy just likes the number 12.
;)
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Orichalcum, per the above paragraph, I have nothing useful to offer. :)
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Other than that, I'd try Macy's, Nieman Marcus, or Lord & Taylor. Unfortunately though, the last few times I've shopped there, it's been hard to find anything other than variations on the currently in color.
Good luck!
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Good luck!
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But would a hot date need _12 boxes_?
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Well, no—I figured the roses for the date and the boxes for later use, because hey, he was there, might as well stock up!
And my domestic incompetence has not yet reached the level of Trader Joe's Mac, thank you—but then, my hot date for the weekend was taking in a BCE concert with
marketsquare, so clearly my hypothetical bachelor is doing better than I am. <grin>
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I'm sure you would present your hypothetical hot date with numerous yummy homemade baked goods and win her heart much more effectively. I was going to say "through her stomach," but that's a rather gruesome image.
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For the wedding that we're going to in July with you guys, I was figuring I'd probably wear the same comfy-but-nice ankle-length dress that I wore to your guys' wedding. But if you want to wear super-snazzy dress to that, I could bring my green silk gown (considerably fancier, though not what I'd call Oscar-style) and wear that instead. I suppose we could ask the bridegroom of that wedding if he has any preference for level o' fanciness.
(And whether there'll be dancing at the reception. I can't move comfortably in the green silk dress, so dancing in it would be quite out.)
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Hmm... I can't remember A.'s family tartan colors. I'd wear the dark red if it's a color in the pattern, and the floral if not (because it's patterned too). This is, of course, without seeing either dress.
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A. is Hunting Ancient and Mac is Modern, because they didn't have Hunting Ancient in Baby.
The red dress is red-wine in color, so it might work, might not. I think floral might clash.
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We've dressed SMNH in clothes that match his father's, but nothing that unusual.
-MJNH, looking forward to pictures.
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The Sigma Chi guy was probably throwing a formal or an initiation post-party. Kegs are against Sigma Chi risk management policy, and Sigma Chi HQ is in Evanston. Plus, NW had some serious issues a few years ago. So they wanted to be both Klassy and also not lose their charter. :)
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The variation adds unnecessary complexity. :) I know we always just got cases of Andre (I guess we split between the spumante and the other variety, so that's some variation....). :)
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In fact sale season is the big time to buy anything. The Spring season goes on sale in about a weeks time at most boutiques and I imagine the department stores will follow in the same period. Most places go to at least 35% off, which is nice. Of course, spring means slightly less formal dresses than Fall in general, but there might be something for you.
Another option are outlet stores, this is where the designer boutiques send all their overstock, so it'll be a couple of seasons back, not that that should matter a great deal. Armani has one in Manchester NH which is not so helpful, but I imagine that there is something similar in the Chicago area.
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Why does spring mean less formal dresses than fall?
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